"We Have To Get Over The Pains Of Headache And Heart Breaks and Start Living Again

Everyone of us at one time or another; has suffered some type of heartache or heart break in our lives. When we suffer pains of the heart' the pain is unbearable and almost to much to handle, but by Gods grace, we muddle through it. There are many different kinds heartaches and heart breaks in our lives, heartaches and heart breaks is distressing pain of the heart that seems to hurt forever; or until we are finally healed of the pain. It doesn't matter, whether it's an unresolved love affair that went bad or the lost of a loved one, or a friend, or a pet, our heart suffers excruciating and intolerable pain. Women are more emotional than a man; so I think maybe women go through more emotional pains than men. I'm not saying that man don't have love or care pain, I just think the women's pain goes much deeper; because we're such emotional human beings. When we're in a very loving and committed relationship, we're very happy, but the break- up of that relationship will cause a women so much heartache and pain that it will take prayers and a lot of other things before she can come to the realization that it's over and done and she needs to get her self together and move on.

It might be a while, before she love that hard again, if ever, because there's a trust issue now; because of the pain she suffered from giving herself and her heart to that particular man. I know about that kind of pain, because I lived it myself and I know it's not a pain that anyone in their right mind would want to entertain. When you love someone so hard and so deeply and you realize that person doesn't share your feelings, you're disappointed and terribly hurt. I'm a women that shows true emotions, I can't hide my feelings, if I care for someone, it shows; and this is where most women get hurt. The reason we get hurt so badlyy is because we normally put our heart and soul into the relationship, so if the relationship gets shattered into a million pieces, so does the women's heart in the process. I have heard many people say, don't fall in love, or don't care to much or don't put your whole heart into it, but my question is, How do you tell your heart not to care for someone, this is an act that I couldn't have ever controledl and still can't. So, those of you that can master your heart, I applaud your efforts and I guess it's a good thing if you can truly tell your heart who to love and who not to love; that's a way of keeping your heart from being broken over and over again.

I'm just the type of women where, what you see is exactly what you get; I'm me, from the heart: so if you aren't real. You need to keep going..I have been hurt many times by heartless men, that I thought genuinely cared for me as a person; but I later found out they had another agenda. I do sympathize for women that's like me, that believe in and trust people to soon. Heartaches and heart breaks can also come from physical loses as well, like losing a limb, a breast or eye sight anything of physical nature. I can't even imagine the heart break and heartaches of those that have physical loses, all I do know is my brother lost his leg and he was pretty messed up; and then he lost his life, I guess some people never get over the lost. I can and do sympathise with all heartaches and heart breaks in my life because I sufferer many. I have been blessed that I haven't lost a child or grand child and I haven't lost a pet, because we don't own any. I have notice that the people that own pets and lose them, it's seems it's like losing a child or a member of their immediately family and it's a very heart breaking thing to get over.

All I do know is that after all this headaches and hear break pains that we endure; that we have to eventually start to live again and the only way we can achieve this goal is to contact God and ask him to help us get over come this pain . The good thing about it is, our God already knows us and all about the undo pain we all suffer. God know us better than our birth parent, so if we depend on him and he will see us through all hurt and pains of this world. So, if we depend on God our headaches and the heart breaks will soon be replaced by the joy and love of another , because of Gods saving grace we 'll realize that we will be alright after all. We except the fact that we went through it; and that our experiences only succeeded in making us stronger, better, and more loving individuals.

Benny Faye Douglass